Saturday, April 26, 2008
Perspective 130
Our Guest Connaisseur writes:
I mentioned last time about some topics of truth, let's pursue this more. There are different truths, they range from poetic truth (the consistency of a novel that allows one to suspend disbelief) to absolute truth: OJ Simpson either did or did not kill his wife.
One of those possibilities is an absolute truth. Where truth is unknown the best we can do is make judgments about the truth because it is separate from us. That is how different juries can reach different judgments about the same event.
I like to view truth as separate from us, as in the OJ example. Then again, that is a matter of perspective: Monkeys have little use for objective truth as a concept, but as a practical matter I'm sure they know what they eat might sustain them or kill them.
Where I think a lot of people get mixed up is confusing matters of taste with matters of truth.
Capital punishment is a matter of taste. The temperature water boils at, at sea level, is a matter of truth. The problem happens when a matter of taste -- say your flavor of religion -- is asserted as a matter of truth, a problem the world is now experiencing with Muslims.
I think one of the silliest flatulence's of post modernism is the idea of personal truth, as in, it is true for me, but doesn't have to be true for you. Okay then...my response to a post modernist who says truth is totally subjective is...if I step off this cliff I will fall to my death. Since that is not true for you, you go first.
So, do we agree that we should seek absolute truth?
That's a loaded question because almost always when that question is asked the next barrel blasts "HERE IS THE TRUTH" when it is really delivering a belief, not a truth.
That we die is an absolute truth. That there is life after death is a belief, not a truth. So my answer is a qualified, "Yes" - if you are referring to absolute truths, but if you are referring to matters of belief and calling them truth or truths, then "No".
So where am I going with this, well, consider that in a relationship with your significant other, honesty is very very important. If it is to last, then honesty is required. However, I have discovered that when dealing with women, some truths are better left unsaid. Especially where their weight and/or appearance is concerned. Also, I think if you have an affair you should never tell her. If you have an affair and don't tell her your relationship might not change that much, men can wander for sex and not fall out of love.
Now, if she knows you had an affair the relationship will never be the same for both and she will resent it until the day you die, and then long after that. Therefore, I have reached the conclusion you do not tell the woman you love you had an affair because it will make her miserable. You also don't tell the woman you don't love you had an affair because that will energize her more to get more from your hide when you separate. No news is good news.
I think it is best to never tell anyone significant you had an affair. Dishonesty in that regard is the best policy...And I suppose I have to pre-counter the usual female response of "we know if he had an affair because we have woman's intuition." This is nonsense, suspecting and the feelings that go with that are nothing to actually knowing and the real feelings that actually exist.
Our Guest Connaisseur writes:
I mentioned last time about some topics of truth, let's pursue this more. There are different truths, they range from poetic truth (the consistency of a novel that allows one to suspend disbelief) to absolute truth: OJ Simpson either did or did not kill his wife.
One of those possibilities is an absolute truth. Where truth is unknown the best we can do is make judgments about the truth because it is separate from us. That is how different juries can reach different judgments about the same event.
I like to view truth as separate from us, as in the OJ example. Then again, that is a matter of perspective: Monkeys have little use for objective truth as a concept, but as a practical matter I'm sure they know what they eat might sustain them or kill them.
Where I think a lot of people get mixed up is confusing matters of taste with matters of truth.
Capital punishment is a matter of taste. The temperature water boils at, at sea level, is a matter of truth. The problem happens when a matter of taste -- say your flavor of religion -- is asserted as a matter of truth, a problem the world is now experiencing with Muslims.
I think one of the silliest flatulence's of post modernism is the idea of personal truth, as in, it is true for me, but doesn't have to be true for you. Okay then...my response to a post modernist who says truth is totally subjective is...if I step off this cliff I will fall to my death. Since that is not true for you, you go first.
So, do we agree that we should seek absolute truth?
That's a loaded question because almost always when that question is asked the next barrel blasts "HERE IS THE TRUTH" when it is really delivering a belief, not a truth.
That we die is an absolute truth. That there is life after death is a belief, not a truth. So my answer is a qualified, "Yes" - if you are referring to absolute truths, but if you are referring to matters of belief and calling them truth or truths, then "No".
So where am I going with this, well, consider that in a relationship with your significant other, honesty is very very important. If it is to last, then honesty is required. However, I have discovered that when dealing with women, some truths are better left unsaid. Especially where their weight and/or appearance is concerned. Also, I think if you have an affair you should never tell her. If you have an affair and don't tell her your relationship might not change that much, men can wander for sex and not fall out of love.
Now, if she knows you had an affair the relationship will never be the same for both and she will resent it until the day you die, and then long after that. Therefore, I have reached the conclusion you do not tell the woman you love you had an affair because it will make her miserable. You also don't tell the woman you don't love you had an affair because that will energize her more to get more from your hide when you separate. No news is good news.
I think it is best to never tell anyone significant you had an affair. Dishonesty in that regard is the best policy...And I suppose I have to pre-counter the usual female response of "we know if he had an affair because we have woman's intuition." This is nonsense, suspecting and the feelings that go with that are nothing to actually knowing and the real feelings that actually exist.
Saturday, April 19, 2008
You Bet I'm The PanContrary to popular misconceptions that men, such as myself, that live in Neverland, the Promise Land, or Whatever Land to those trapped in their miserable lives; that we, as free and single men, are simply trying to escape reality by extending adolescence, forsaking being and becoming responsible adults, not fulling societal expectations and other nonsense designed to steal our freedom and liberty to be men - and great and awesome men at that by doing our own thing, our way, like the God that we're under - I would have to say, that creating my own reality is better than the status quo reality propagated throughout America as "normal".
Consider:
News has become sensational in America - for women or the feminine mindset runs and controls most news media, so why would I care or pay attention to such news stories emanating from what was formerly call the mainstream media or newspapers of record, which I think too many men still actually pay attention to. This woman run media is not reporting news, but using the media as a vehicle to push and propagate their cult of woman worldview on the deluded masses. The feminine is the default for righteousness, correct behavior, and thinking. The masculine is not.
Religious institutions in America are largely and by far composed of women, and they influence the structure and discourse of, which I have no particular care to join such or be a part of. Sure, I'll pop in for major holidays with the family, then split with haste once all the spinster women see me as a target of opportunity.
Educational establishments are not teaching anything of value to students, whether high school or college or what not, so unless one goes to higher education for math or science, a trade school alternative, or better yet, learn it yourself by self-study - you are basically learning useless knowledge about whatever propaganda might be the topic of the day per a certain professor or teacher. Been there, fuck that, I got a hard science degree and making tons of money to burn and light my cigars with.
And so on and so forth with most of everything that once had value for men in America...
I was talking with this average everyday American woman that I know, college educated and so forth, and as she was telling me about certain news stories she found regarding relationships and her opinions on them. No intelligent discourse at all, no debate on the validity of such an article, or counter position, no injection of a religious worldview for comparison, so I simply told her I could could care less about such stories and her opinion on them. End of conversation.
As I grow older, I have become less and less tolerant of the stupidity and nonsense that continuously comes out of American women.
I don't care what so and so said in such and such an article about relationships between men and women, or what or how many college degrees a woman has that makes her an expert on whatever, or how I should be as a man per cultural or societal expectation from the gods of morality (religious leaders, politicos, tribal chiefs, whatever.)
This is because, I set the terms and conditions of:
1) Any relationship.
2) Being a man per my own glorious presence.
3) Culture and societal expectations that I decide to choose to follow.
4) Fashionable as I see fit.
5) People that I decide to allow in my presence of greatness.
I will bend the world to my will, not the other way around, and if being the Pan makes it happen, all the better.
Saturday, April 5, 2008
Perspective 129
Our Guest Connaisseur writes:
In most of our daily lives we are not honest at all. We lie intentionally and by omission. In fact, at the heart of good manners is lying. And aren't little lies in a relationship better than grand truths? Getting along is saying "your hair always looks nice" when it really resembles a rat's nest, where as saying "your butt is big enough for a helicopter landing pad" is too honest...
We laud honesty in relationships, but doesn't that really mean we value sincere lying?
As I watch the world around me, it runs well on lies and poorly on truth. Truth can be a fact, but it can also be a construct we give lip service to. The truth is, most of us don't want to know the truth... like the line from the movie ..."you can't handle the truth."
After a lifetime of living I think keeping ones infidelities to oneself is by far the best policy. Being "honest" is just increasing the misery. Many a couple gets along fine until one admits to being unfaithful. A secret kept by one may not end the relationship, but shared it usually does. I know that if I am ever in a relationship again AND I am unfaithful I am not going to say a single thing unless I want out of the relationship.
Therefore, this follows that I think all men want to get out of all relationships all the time...we just convince ourselves to stay (she cooks good, religion tells me to stay with this cow, what will the Jones' think, etc.)... so the urge to cheat -- which is nearly constant -- is not a good measure of when it is over.
The measure is when you get a cold spot in your stomach and you know:
1) Things are not good
2) They will never get better.
I can remember an exact moment like that...I hit a rough spot with my girlfriend and as usual she was using no sex as a weapon (they all do and they all say they do not)...but then she accused my best friend of plotting to harm her (about an honest fellow who would die for you). At that exact moment, at the end of that very sentence, whatever we had evaporated instantly, the flame was on, the flame was off, no transition. This was the measure.
Conversely, the editor of this blog is somewhat different, he is quite honest with women (your butt is a helicopter landing pad, your hair is a rat's nest, etc.) - although, he has a grand plan to fulfill in his life, and has no need to be concerned with women's nonsense...it would be wise for more men to take note of this.
Our Guest Connaisseur writes:
In most of our daily lives we are not honest at all. We lie intentionally and by omission. In fact, at the heart of good manners is lying. And aren't little lies in a relationship better than grand truths? Getting along is saying "your hair always looks nice" when it really resembles a rat's nest, where as saying "your butt is big enough for a helicopter landing pad" is too honest...
We laud honesty in relationships, but doesn't that really mean we value sincere lying?
As I watch the world around me, it runs well on lies and poorly on truth. Truth can be a fact, but it can also be a construct we give lip service to. The truth is, most of us don't want to know the truth... like the line from the movie ..."you can't handle the truth."
After a lifetime of living I think keeping ones infidelities to oneself is by far the best policy. Being "honest" is just increasing the misery. Many a couple gets along fine until one admits to being unfaithful. A secret kept by one may not end the relationship, but shared it usually does. I know that if I am ever in a relationship again AND I am unfaithful I am not going to say a single thing unless I want out of the relationship.
Therefore, this follows that I think all men want to get out of all relationships all the time...we just convince ourselves to stay (she cooks good, religion tells me to stay with this cow, what will the Jones' think, etc.)... so the urge to cheat -- which is nearly constant -- is not a good measure of when it is over.
The measure is when you get a cold spot in your stomach and you know:
1) Things are not good
2) They will never get better.
I can remember an exact moment like that...I hit a rough spot with my girlfriend and as usual she was using no sex as a weapon (they all do and they all say they do not)...but then she accused my best friend of plotting to harm her (about an honest fellow who would die for you). At that exact moment, at the end of that very sentence, whatever we had evaporated instantly, the flame was on, the flame was off, no transition. This was the measure.
Conversely, the editor of this blog is somewhat different, he is quite honest with women (your butt is a helicopter landing pad, your hair is a rat's nest, etc.) - although, he has a grand plan to fulfill in his life, and has no need to be concerned with women's nonsense...it would be wise for more men to take note of this.
